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My sister and I are lucky to have the parents we had.
- My mom was a working mom.
- She was very independent and strong.
- She was a leader, an accountant and pretty introverted.
- My father was a great salesperson and had very strong political career.
People admired them.
- They were people you could count on in tough times and get the counsel needed.
- They were Good People.
Growing up in that household, sometimes felt like a prison.
- My parents had periods of time where there was no communication.
- They almost never tackled tough issues through dialogue and discussion.
- Going to bed angry was a regular thing.
As I was becoming of age, I mustered the courage to ask each of them.
- Why are they still together?
- They both blew my mind with their answers – and they both said the same thing: “We have a responsibility as parents.”
In spring of 1994 I was 28 years old, and my father and I had our first heart-to-heart conversation about relationships.
- My mother died 18 months earlier.
- When I revisited the subject of his relationship with my mom, he said they would not have separated because they loved each other.
- That answer blew my mind.
The bottom line: They were still in love and committed to being the best parents they could be, but they were not able to express themselves without judgment and guilt.
Later in life, I learned this happens more often than I thought.
TUG Cards Transform Relationships
The biggest problems in an organization are not related to technology or machines.
- They are related to people.
- There are endless resources to fix technology and machines.
- Tools to help solve human problems are still very complicated.
I went from watching my parents’ strained relationship to being business partners with my spouse. I did not want to have the same relationship with my wife as I saw in my parents.
The bottom line: After paying a lot of dumb tax, I realize that the conversation is the relationship.
- We judge others by their actions, and we judge ourselves by our intent.
- That judgement is often clouded with interference and noise of unfinished thoughts and emotions like guilt.
We created TUG Cards (Talent & Unique Genius Cards) to transform the dynamics of conversations and relationships. They help us focus on an individual’s talent and unique genius instead of judging and having guilt.
Learn More About TUG Cards
TUG Cards are digital profiles that combine results of four assessments that I found to be critical to build teams that lead themselves.
The assessments show:
- Alignment
- Energy
- Drive
- Attitudes
Assessments aren’t what makes TUG Cards special—actionable insights are. Digital results at your fingertips help you focus conversations on leveraging everyone’s unique genius, not judging it.
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